If you’re feeling the whirlwind of excitement, joy, and yes, that potential hint of stress that can come with wedding planning, you’re in the right place. Having guided numerous couples through their wedding planning journeys, I intimately understand the delicate balance between envisioning your dream celebration and managing the ongoing demands throughout your engagement journey.
So, take a deep breath— you are not alone. Your wedding to-do list may sometimes feel like it has a life of its own, but achieving a stress-free celebration is entirely within reach.
Let’s kickstart this journey together with my 10 essential tips for planning a stress-free micro wedding.
When embarking on your micro wedding planning journey, it’s crucial to adopt a deliberate and thoughtful approach, taking the time to refine your priorities. Amidst the many questions and decisions that may arise, this exercise can be a useful guide, helping you uncover the elements that hold the most significance for you and your partner.
Think of this activity as a jumpstart to your micro wedding planning journey:
This exercise provides a clear and authentic understanding of your shared priorities and also serves as a practical reference throughout your wedding planning journey. It becomes a foundation, allowing you to reconnect with the core elements that truly matter as you craft a micro wedding authentically reflecting your love story and style.
Focus on the elements you’ve identified as most important on your list, and don’t let the other small details overwhelm you. Give yourself the freedom to let the non-essentials go. The majority of wedding stress arises from the plethora of small tasks associated with the day.
Remember, just because you saw it on Pinterest doesn’t mean you have to incorporate it – there’s no use in adding it to the task list if it doesn’t resonate with your heart. And in the wise words of Marie Kondo, if it doesn’t ‘spark joy,’ let it go. Stay authentic to yourselves, and feel no pressure to follow the hottest trends – be your own trendsetter!
One powerful way to swiftly alleviate a significant portion of wedding planning stress is to hire your wedding coordinator (if you decide to have one) or wedding photographer early. With our wealth of planning experience, we become a valuable resource, offering vendor recommendations, practical advice, venue or location suggestions, and even serving as a brainstorming partner. It’s like having a wedding planning sidekick, someone who lives and breathes weddings – not only is it our job, but it’s our passion.
A photographer who is well-connected in the wedding sphere will prove an apt partner, capable of assembling a tried and trusted team of wedding vendors. Navigating through various options for florists, hair and makeup, and caterers to discern which ones will contribute to a stress-free wedding day can be time-consuming. By prioritizing your wedding photographer, you gain access to reliable, professional wedding vendor recommendations. Stress is the last thing we want, and nothing generates more stress than issues with vendors on the day of your micro wedding. However, the right crew can transform your special day into an absolute dream.
If you envision a micro wedding for your big (yet intimate) day, you may be in search of a mindful and intentional celebration. However, crafting a guest list for a smaller celebration may entail making tough decisions about who to include and, inevitably, who to leave out. While you may hear varying opinions while crafting your guest list, remember that your special day is fundamentally about you and your partner. If you find friends and loved ones struggling with your decision to celebrate in their absence, here are my tips for handling the situation with consideration, honesty, and respect:
Confidently Share Your Plans: Openly share your wedding plans with your loved ones. If you anticipate a challenging conversation, consider preparing a script in advance to guide the discussion and ensure clarity.
Offer Alternative Inclusions: Provide meaningful ways to include your nearest and dearest in your celebration. This could include inviting them to write heartfelt letters for you to read on your wedding day or extending an invitation for a separate dinner celebration after your micro wedding.
Capture Moments with Gorgeous Photos: Document your wedding day with stunning photos that not only encapsulate the intimate moments but also allow you to share and relive every aspect with your loved ones.
Maintain Respectful Boundaries: If you encounter resistance, uphold respectful but firm boundaries. Regard others’ sentiments with empathy but remain true to the decisions that align with your vision for an intimate and authentic micro wedding.
Planning a micro wedding becomes notably smoother when you enlist your entire support system. Identify smaller tasks and delegate them to trusted family members or friends, thereby lightening your load.
Additionally, tap into the expertise of your rockstar micro wedding vendors for valuable advice or assistance. Our seasoned experience enables us to provide insights and effective solutions to common challenges. Even if we haven’t encountered a situation quite like yours, our extensive network within the wedding industry means we can tap into valuable resources for guidance. By actively involving your support system, you not only share the responsibilities but also benefit from the collective wisdom and experience of those who genuinely want to see your micro wedding unfold seamlessly.
Certain elements of your micro wedding are beyond your control – the weather, for instance, and maybe even your in-laws (just kidding… sort of). While you can’t dictate whether the sun will shine or the rain will fall, you can prepare for it. Having a solid plan B in place can be incredibly helpful. If you’ve already devised a contingency plan for rain or inclement weather, you can navigate these challenges with ease on the big day. Whether you choose to embrace the weather and dance in the rain or stick to an indoor plan, having a weather contingency eliminates the stress of making last-minute decisions come your wedding day. By planning ahead you ensure that, come what may, you’re ready to celebrate your micro wedding with joy and flexibility.
Sometimes, just having an emergency bag on hand can alleviate stress. Consider keeping a designated bag somewhere in your house, and whenever you think of something you might need for an emergency on your wedding day, toss it in – even if you’re unsure whether you’ll actually use it. Include items like mints, Tylenol, a hydration packet (especially for those high-altitude weddings), an extra pair of shoes or clothes, a small sewing kit, a laundry cleaning pen, tissues, and honestly, the list could go on forever. This simple yet effective strategy ensures that you’re well-prepared to handle any unexpected challenges on your micro wedding day with ease and grace. By planning ahead, you avoid the last-minute scramble to gather everything the day before or, worse, on the day of your celebration.
Sharing your wedding timeline with everyone involved ensures a seamless flow of events. When everyone knows where they should be and when, you eliminate the stress of searching for guests during crucial moments like family photos. This proactive step prevents any missed opportunities and guarantees that every aspect of your micro wedding unfolds smoothly, without you worrying about a thing.
While some wedding planning activities are enjoyable, like the beloved cake tasting, they can start to feel overwhelming when added together. Instead of viewing them as tasks, savor each one as a unique experience and truly enjoy the process. Consider turning the potentially stressful task list into a date night list – after all, you’re in your engaged era! When you tackle wedding planning together, you can make it more enjoyable by turning it into a game or adding a fun twist. This not only brings you closer to one another but ensures that each of you has a full picture of what your micro wedding day will be like.
Now, let’s dive into the last step – taking a break, a vital aspect of your micro wedding journey. Create dedicated time and space to step away from wedding planning altogether. Remember, the hobbies and interests that brought you joy before the whirlwind of wedding planning still deserve a prime spot during your engaged era. And, despite the demands of wedding planning and everyday life, make sure to prioritize breaks to do things you love. Striking the ideal balance between planning and personal time is key to ensuring your micro wedding journey is not just manageable but truly enjoyable. Because, honestly, you deserve every moment of it!
If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed amidst the hustle and bustle of planning your micro wedding, take a moment to pause and reflect on this guide. By prioritizing, staying true to your unique vision, and finding that delicate balance, you can genuinely plan a stress-free micro wedding. And, as the big day approaches, rest assured that you’ll be prepared and cool as a cucumber, supported by a rockstar team of wedding vendors.
Remember, this engaged period is an exceptionally exciting time in your life – don’t let it pass you by. Immerse yourself in every moment, create blissful memories, and relish in the journey of planning your micro wedding.
When you are ready to start the exciting and stress-free micro wedding planning journey, get in touch, and let’s begin this adventure together!